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Latest blog posts from eHarmony Cracked

It's time to go. At least for now.
Long-time readers have noticed that I haven't posted any "War stories" from my eHarmony search. For quite awhile.br /br /And I have to admit - lately, my search has been pretty undramatic.br /br /Sure, I was communicating with a lot of women. As usual, some had no business using eHarmony, and... Read more...
Published 6 days ago

Creating a success spiral (Or: "Positive thinking isn't just hippie bullcrap.")
I've talked a lot about the "failure spiral".br /br /It's the mental state that people enter when they're unsuccessful on eHarmony.br /br /As a result of their beliefs that they're failing, men start doing span style="font-style: italic;"more/span of the things that identify themselves as... Read more...
Published a week ago

Those "card list" women...
A long time ago, I talked about something that I call the a href="http://eharmonycracked.blogspot.com/2007/07/holiday-list.html""Card List"/a - a place that I put women, who, for whatever reason, seem too difficult to have in a relationship, but, given time, might grow up a little.br /br /Well,... Read more...
Published a week ago

When your career "intimidates" your dates...
It's a "cycle of defeat" that hurts both men span style="font-style: italic;"and/span women.br /br /Men often come to eHarmony with high hopes. After all, they're accomplished doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs... or whatnot. And they expect women to come flocking to them, because they've got a... Read more...
Published 2 weeks ago

Day off tomorrow...
No post tomorrow, guys.br /br /Happy Rosh Hashanah, to our Jewish readers! pa href="http://feedads.googleadservices.com/~a/_WdF-SxDiVUPpUbd8heux1Sy2e4/a"img src="http://feedads.googleadservices.com/~a/_WdF-SxDiVUPpUbd8heux1Sy2e4/i" border="0" ismap="true"/img/a/pdiv class="feedflare" a... Read more...
Published 2 weeks ago

For Members Only!
Well, folks... I took a couple weeks off eHarmony as an expired member. First, because I was on a foreign vacation with a lot more to do. The next week... because I was waiting for a decent coupon.br /br /Anyway, there's one discovery that I made as a nonmember:br /br /The "Who's viewed me"... Read more...
Published 2 weeks ago

If you're tempted to use "trick" pictures...
To wrap up my discussion of photos (for awhile at least), I've got one final message.br /br /Yes, guys. I know that a lot of women use a href="http://www.officialdatingresource.com/revenge-of-the-myspace-angles-pics/""trick pictures"/a. It can be tempting to use the same tricks as well.br /br... Read more...
Published 2 weeks ago

Focus on you - not the background!
As I've mentioned, eHarmony photos shouldn't be taken span style="font-style: italic;"only/span with you and a blankspan style="font-style: italic;"/span background.br /br /But that span style="font-style: italic;"doesn't/span mean that the focus of the picture should span style="font-style:... Read more...
Published 2 weeks ago

Why SHOULD you get what you want?
A couple of days ago, I made a suggestion to folks who felt like they couldn't get decent pictures of themselves taken.br /br /My suggestion was simple - find people who are busy taking pictures with their friends. Ask them if they'd like a group photo. They usually want one. span... Read more...
Published 3 weeks ago

When the camera adds a few pounds...
Okay, folks. There's a good reason that I advocate taking span style="font-style: italic;"tons/span of pictures, to find the one or two that will make you look good on eHarmony.br /br /Because I really need to do that, myself.br /br /As a guy, I'm in pretty decent shape. I span... Read more...
Published 3 weeks ago

Collecting photos - without looking like a freak.
One of the keys to having good eHarmony photos is to take span style="font-style: italic;"a lot/span of pictures.br /br /Think about it. Supermodel photo shoots use up span style="font-style: italic;"hundreds/span of frames - just to find one photo that span style="font-style: italic;"might/span... Read more...
Published 3 weeks ago

Women in profile photos?
Another often-repeated bit of advice is to avoid putting women in your online photos.br /br /In it's original context, it does make some sense. When people put up profile photos that include an ex-girlfriend (or with a woman who has obviously been cut out), people will wonder if you've spent... Read more...
Published 3 weeks ago